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In the days around my 40th birthday, I met the most amazing man and the impact of the connection was so incredible for both of us that, in all honesty, it shook us for a number of months. Naturally, I wanted more of this personal growth and more of him. I was addicted to him, he was delicious in every way and our compatibility was intense in every area of our lives. But at the end of the day, he was still grieving the ending of his marriage and for me, no matter how amazing he was, I had to let him go. In the ensuing days, weeks and months, I learned to love him and let go again and again, but also that when a man says “he’s not ready,” it probably means that you aren’t ready too.
“Of course I’m ready!” I hear you protest, “I’ve been ready my whole life!”. Of course. You are right. You have been ready for a relationship for your life, but are you ready for what it is you deeply want and have asked for over and over again: the conscious co-created partnership with Divine love at the core? Is he?
For many women, our spirituality forms the basis of who we are and many women are not willing to settle for the traditional or “normal” relationship, we desire a spiritually-based one that can take both parties to the bliss of ecstasy. For that, no, you are probably not ready, there is a lot of inner work that needs to be done. It involves a number of things:
Ultimately, our search for love is one of self-love; that is when we truly, deeply love ourselves as a divine spark of the Universe. So the reality is, your longing and waiting is a reflection of the divine waiting and longing for you to connect with Source. You need yourself to move into a space of “I love myself enough to let you go,” with the other person. Like one of my meditation teachers, Kat, always used to say “Fake it until you make it.” Use this affirmation every time you think of the other person.
If it’s a spiritual based relationship that you are after, you really need to do the spiritual work required to get it and that means letting go of the past, the ego and being fully and mindfully in the present and being in divine love and joy in each and every moment. Then, that’s when the magic happens. The universe is taking care of all the details. All you need to do is to be open and receptive to receiving the abundance of love that you asked for. And it happens, just like that. Your only job is to be open and receptive to receiving your dreams: your only job.
Please let me know how you go with these tips. I’m happy to answer questions.
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