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I think many of us just cope with life, but don't actually thrive in this wondrous world, which then doesn't allow us the space or energy to feel the wonder we have about the miracle life is.
This week, I've enacted a time restriction on my social media, because, let's be honest, there's not a lot of good news going on out there; the loss of biodiversity through land clearing, the climate crisis and the continued inaction by our leaders to show any ounce of compassion or humanity about anyone but themselves and our inevitable...
...extinction should we fail to take action now.
I've been reflecting about how we got into this situation and more importantly, how we get out of it. I'm a keen advocate for mental and emotional health and I think every single person should have access to a psychologist to help us sort through our hurts and wounds of childhood, but what I think is actually happening is we have had so many generations of trauma that has been passed down leaving us all feeling somewhat numb and disconnected from our bodies, our sense of self, our communities and our planet.
Let me explain.
Inter-generational trauma is a relatively new field of study which has particularly looked at the effect on the Stolen Generations of Aboriginal people in Australia. I am not Indigenous to this continent so I cannot speak about that, however, if I look at my lineage, I have convicts, war veterans and Irish who fled the famines of the 1800s. The trauma that any of these events would have had on my great-great-great grandparents would not have been addressed at the time. Even in the 1970s after Vietnam, soldiers were expected to assimilate back into society without a peep - often leading to very high suicide rates among survivors and even more alarming, high suicide rates in their children. This trauma is being unconsciously passed on to us all and unless we start to deal with our lineage, it is very difficult to be a fully-functioning human being who can have empathy and compassion about the horrific news that we are delivered on a daily basis.
Nobody has had a perfect childhood, and every one of us try to be perfect parents the best way we can, but even the smallest incident can trigger a traumatic reaction in us (I am by no means diminishing the trauma of severe neglect, abuse or things such as foetal alcohol syndrome here) but what I am saying is that all of us carry emotional wounds, but not all of us deal with it in a way which is healthy. I think many of us just cope with life, but don't actually thrive in this wondrous world, which then doesn't allow us the space or energy to feel the wonder we have about the miracle life is.
We are the ONLY known, habitable planet in the entire Universe. Every single living thing is taken care of within this amazing biosphere that is perfectly formed to support life. So, why aren't we treasuring it? But I think the answer is tied up in our own emotional literacy - that is, our ability to deal with the inter-generational patterns and traumas of childhood that drive our unconscious behaviour and we, as a global community, don't do that well.
When we can't even reflect on our own individual inner mess, how can we possibly reflect on the collective mess we have made of our habitat? How can we possibly repair the damage of our home, if our inner home is chaos? It is our inability to treasure ourselves and each other extends to our global home too.
One solution is for us to nurture and care for our inner children, but also see the wounded inner child of everyone - including our leaders - yes, including THAT one! I challenge you to see even the most terrible in our society as someone carrying ignored and suppressed emotions. That in no way absolves their behaviours - not at all - but if we can look at the most evil of people with some level of compassion, that says more about us and our ability to forgive than it does about them. It can also help us to have more mature dialogue which is both open to really listening another point of view and working together for solutions rather than being polarised as right and left, right or wrong or black and white.
The climate catastrophe, loss of biodiversity and our inevitable extinction cannot be solved by changing our inner world alone, but it just might change your inner world and of those around you.
©Alyssa Curtayne 2019
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